"Once you get married," said psychotherapist Betsy Milas Treiber '79, "the meaning of Valentine's Day changes. My husband gives me flowers. I buy him chocolates, but we tell each other 'I love you' every day of the year. We don't need a special holiday for that. For us, V-Day is no big deal and for most single people, it just reminds them of a lack in their life." Betsy spent the majority of her 20s and 30s as a single woman. She met her husband at 38, married at 41 and adopted a baby from China last September. However, before she was married, she used that time to focus on the relationship with herself.

A graduate of Boston University with a MSW, Betsy helps others, as she describes, "to live life from a place of awareness through therapy." She proudly admits that she spent a number of years in therapy working through her own struggles. "I examined why my relationships were not successful. In that time, I learned how to be alone. People have such a fear of that, and they make a career out of trying to find someone. Therapy taught me how to be my own best friend and how to feel comfortable with myself." Betsy offers this advice to all twenty and thirty somethings: "Take the time to get to know yourself and who you are."

Betsy feels that her life was already complete before she met her husband thus relieving their early courtship of angst and pressure. Her relationship with her husband goes beyond romantic love. "Although romance is important in a relationship, it's not the only part of it. Love is much deeper and quieter than the initial attraction and passion symbolized by Valentine's Day. Healthy relationships take work, honesty, communication, emotional risk and more work."

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"This was my first time on the ice at The Gunnery in five years," said Ryan Kelly '01. "A lot has changed in a short amount of time." Ryan was one of several alumni who returned in early February to play an intense Alumni Hockey Game against the current varsity hockey team. "It was a close game," said Ryan. "We (the alumni) won within the last 30 seconds. However, the atmosphere was friendly. We were all there to have fun." [continued]




The Foreign Language Department has made great strides within the past year in turning their curriculum into a modern-day, user-friendly experience for its students. Various websites, smart boards and specialized software allow for interactive learning and individualized sessions with faculty members. "We are utilizing the latest in technology," said Foreign Language Department Chair, Karen Lincoln. "The students are more technologically oriented, so this is a draw for them. It also gives them the chance to work independently." For her French classes, Karen will record herself. The kids will listen, record their own voices and send them back to her. Through this, they can utilize grammar, vocabulary and dialect skills learned in class.

In addition to taped dialogue, Dean of Faculty and Spanish teacher, Eileen Kelly Aguirre, utilizes online workbooks. "Hearing the native speakers brings the kids closer to the real world," said Eileen. "This system allows for electronic feedback on a one-to-one basis. We are trying to get the kids to identify their own mistakes as opposed to us pointing them out to them."

French teacher Anna Kjellson provides her students with another innovative approach to learning through l'immeuble ("the apartment building"). Inspired by a how to book of the same name, this project allows the French IV students to utilize their creative and analytical skills. "We craft an imaginary apartment building in a French speaking world," said Anna. "The kids create everything in this world: their characters, the floor plans and decorations among other items. I will present a quirk to them, and they need to resolve it. This gives the kids a way to take what we've learned in class, create something from it, act it out and talk about it. This is a vehicle for interaction."

Karen credits a widely diverse Foreign Language department team for the success of this program. "Each faculty member," she said, "has a love of language and communicating. We would like for each kid, to the best of their ability, to learn oral and language proficiency as well as historical and cultural awareness."




Trustee Joan A. Noto P '97 joined Head of School Susan Graham in honoring fellow board member Christine Stonbely and husband George P '99 for their generous contributions to The Campaign for The Gunnery. In front of an audience of trustees, faculty, administration and students, the main foyer in the Dining Hall / Student Center complex was named in the Stonbely's honor. In her opening speech, Joan commented that ... [continued]




Jim Dutcher, who, with his wife Jamie, lived for six years in Idaho with a wolf pack, is the son of Corneil Dutcher '37 who founded The Gunnery News in 1935. The newspaper carried news of the campus weekly, and replaced that function of the Stray Shot, which became a literary magazine published quarterly.

The 2005-2006 Highlander team under faculty advisor, Dr. Nick Benson, has received many accolades for its news coverage from students, faculty and board members.



 By Karoline Theobald


On Saturday, January 28th thirty-five children and their parents at the Gunn Memorial Junior library learned first hand about the traditions and meaning of the Asian Lunar New Year from members of The Gunnery's International Club and the Community Service Group. Attendance at this annual event has grown substantially in the four years since its inception.'

Junior Suh (Steve) Choi of Korea and Senior Marcia Zhou of China introduced the program with information about lunar New Year celebrations in their own countries. In both countries, it is a time to clean houses in preparation for family visits and feasts. Children look forward to the holiday because the adults give them money. Marcia handed out the traditional red pockets, envelopes that hold money for youngsters, but in this case held Chinese candies. Five tables were set up with crafts and activities so the guests could experience the holiday with the help of their international guides. The children created fierce dancing dragon puppets, lucky goldfish to hang in their windows, and traditional banners saying "Happy New Year" in Chinese characters. They played memory games with the twelve animals of the Chinese zodiac and yut noli, a traditional Korean New Year's game.





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World traveler Nathan Koldys '96 originally set out to climb the forbidding Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania to conquer demons that haunted his childhood and adolescence. It was a mission to prove that he was capable of doing something physically and athletically challenging. It was also a chance for him to feel as normal as others appeared. However, through his trek up the almost 19,000 foot mountain, he found something he wasn't expecting - he found himself.

"I was never a good athlete," said Nate, "and that is tough when you are at The Gunnery where athletics are so much a part of every day life." Because of his non-athletic sensibilities, Nate felt that he was "different" from most of the students. This sensitivity about the perceptions of others caused countless hours of worry, and this carried on into his early college years.

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Gunnery Goaltender Identified for 2006 NHL Draft
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Goaltender Pat Street '06 recently became the first Gunnery player in over a decade to be rated by the National Hockey League's Central Scouting as a potential prospect for the upcoming 2006 NHL Draft. Central Scouting identified Street as one of only four prep school goaltenders to display NHL level potential. The Maryland native arrived at The Gunnery after earning the Goaltender of the Year Award in the Atlantic Junior Hockey League, as well as being a staple in the USA Hockey Festival Program. He currently enjoys a 2.33 Goals Against Average and a .925 Save Percentage. Scouts spotted the Maryland native's talent during The Gunnery's early season home game against Taft, as well as the subsequent Avon Old Farms Tournament. Street also stands as a model student/athlete within The Gunnery's community, as the senior is an Honor Roll student, Red and Grey Tour Guide, and Sports Editor on the school newspaper.

   

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